- Special Sections
- Public Notices
His and her diary for the same day ...
Her Diary: Tonight, I thought my husband was acting weird. We had made plans to meet at a nice restaurant for dinner. I was shopping with my friends all day long, so I thought he was upset at the fact that I was a bit late, but he made no comment on it. Conversation wasn’t flowing, so I suggested that we go somewhere quiet so we could talk. He agreed, but he didn’t say much. I asked him what was wrong; He said, ‘Nothing.’ I asked him if it was my fault that he was upset. He said he wasn’t upset, that it had nothing to do with me, and not to worry about it. Finally, with silence all around us, I decided to go to bed. About 15 minutes later, he came to bed. He fell asleep—I cried. I don’t know what to do. I’m almost sure that his thoughts are with someone else. My life is a disaster.
His Diary: Boat wouldn’t start, can’t figure out why.
Anyone who has been married can relate to this story. Men and women are as different as Mars and Venus (sounds like a book title). God created us with different needs and personalities. If you want to care for and be cared for by your spouse, write 10 ways you like to be cared for and then give it to your spouse. This will help them understand what you really need from them to be cared for. We often care for each other the way WE want to be cared for, but in reality men and women have different needs and desires.
God wants us to love and be loved.
Another way Diane (my wife of 27 years ) and I try to connect is to pray together. We will talk about what is going in our lives and and then pray for each other. If you have been fighting, it is a powerful way to break down the walls of hostility and bring you together again.
Remember, don’t assume you know what the other one is thinking, let the other person share when they are ready.
(Jerry Zehr is is the pastor of Crittenden Christian Church. He can be reached at firstname.lastname@example.org.)